Ok, hereâ€™s where I begin: I heart I heart huckabees.
Now: Would we change who we are by changing our friends? We know that mere presence can increase liking. By â€œhanging outâ€ with friends, we are engaging in the same activities, making us have â€œcommon fate.â€ However, it is plain and simple that we can choose who our friends are, any more than we can choose who we are.
The universe is a figure/ground problem. Too often we focus on the figure without realizing it is also a ground. For instance, it is just as relevant who we don’t hang out with, and why. Has the question of broken links been addressed in the literature?
Spending time when you have to. When you have to cooperate, even compete against others. Forced admission into a group. Voluntary admission into a group. Who do you spend time with?
What are the processes that lead to liking as well as disliking? Sometimes we talk about growing out of (touch, liking) with a group of people. Is it because we are changing, as we think? We change, not grow.. well, grow and change, become different by changing our environment by changing ourselves by changingâ€¦
There are micro-causes there, chaos that dictates. Stochastic noise. Error. A miscommunication leads to a breakdown. A chance encounter on the bus. But also common trends, things that can be followed.
Do people change groups of friends at regular times in their lives? We move, too, lose touch because of effort. Sometimes just a schedule change can rearrange who you are spending time with. Some are planned, common to everyone: grade school, middle school, high school. Others are voluntary. Are there patterns in the voluntary change?
Conformity. Adopting the beliefs of those around you. Social norms. What do I mean by voluntary? Iâ€™m different, Iâ€™ve grown since we last saw each other. You havenâ€™t changed a bit. Youâ€™re the spitting image of a young man I once knew. Time is forward for us.
Listening, observing, very important. Someone must share to hear. Figure/ground, baby.